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MARRIAGE.... HERES SOMETHING TO PONDER ABOUT... HAPPY READING LOVEBIRDS.. I READ THIS SOMEWHERE AND IM GONNA POST IT HERE SO U GUYS CAN CHECK IT OUT!! AND SEE WHAT YOU THINK OF IT.. OPINIONS AND COMMENTS ARE VERY WELCOME....

Here's the answer:

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,
you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated
their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In
fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous
experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's
why it's called "falling" in love... because it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my
feet." Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something came along and
happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and
spontaneous experience. But after a few years of
marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but
surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come
at all), touch is not always welcome (when it
happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies,
instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every
relationship, but if you think about your marriage,
you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were inlove and a much
duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start
asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you
and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the
love you once had, you may begin to desire that
experience with someone else. This is when
marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse
for their unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and
sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But
sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie
outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with
someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same
situation a few years later. Because (listen
carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS
NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You
can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the
expression "the labor of love." Because it takes
time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it
takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO
to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or
without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe
(such as gravity), there are also laws for
relationships.

Just as the right diet and exercise program makes
you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's
a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply
the laws, the results are predictable. .. you
can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not
just a feeling. Singles may ponder on this too....
for future reference! =)

"When God increases our blessings, it is not
meant to be our reward, it's a call to do greater
things as worthy tenants of His vineyard"...
Mark12:1-12