Word for the day

[PrettyMermaid]

"The sad truth is that most evil is done by people who never make up their minds to be good or evil."

by: Hannah Arendt


Short Word from PM:

 - Evil doers are usually daredevils and void of conscience. They are misguided and misdirected. They are confused and undecided so normally they will do wrong deeds which lead them to commit a sin or a blunder. Realization only sets in when they are bein' caught and penalized. However, not all are able to realized and repent from whatever sin they have done because they refused to accept and renew themselves. That is so pathetic! Right?

[PaPerDoll092201]

The SeCrEt Of HuMan MiSeRy

The idea that we are psychologically attached to negative emotions was developed by the brilliant psychoanalyst Edmund Bergler.He challenged the notion that we are simply the product of what is done to us in childhood. He said that, as children, we form subjective interpretations that, interwoven with the reality of how we were treated and conditioned, grow into fixed negative messages and expectations about ourselves, others, and the world.

Bergler determined that humankind suffers from a condition he called psychic masochism. This term refers to an unconscious willingness we all have as adults to experience or indulge in our unresolved childhood emotions. These include feeling deprived, refused, controlled, criticized, disappointed, rejected, betrayed, and so on. This inner condition through which we maintain and reinforce our negative beliefs and emotions is defended (covered up by us) through our conviction that external situations, other people, or certain flaws in ourselves are responsible for our failures and unhappiness.

He challenged the notion of "innocent victim" and proposed that, unconsciously, we look for, set up, and feed off of the negative dramas in our lives. According to Bergler, we have become attached to and identified with our suffering and our self-defeating thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Experiencing ourselves as victims, and being immersed in self-hatred and self-defeat, we resist experiences of happiness, success, fun, pleasure, self-love, and self-acceptance.

His theories help us understand contemporary society, for they explain the roots of our self-defeating entanglement with passivity, victimization, helplessness, paranoia, violence, and even terrorism. He contended that unconsciously we are perceiving and interpreting reality from the infantile, emotional, or child-part of ourselves. To put it another way, we have an inner need to continue to experience unresolved feelings such as deprivation, domination, control, rejection, and self-hatred.

Bergler was aware of the enormous resistance to his ideas and understood that we are determined emotionally, through our defenses, not to disturb the psychic status quo.

It is an axiom of history and philosophy that the greater the truth, the more we resist it. Humanity took centuries to accept that the earth was round, that it was not the center of the universe. Bergler's theory also threatens our notions of who and what we are, for it asks that we open our minds to the possibility that an unconscious part of ourselves orchestrates an agenda of emotional suffering and self-defeat.

Because we remain so strongly in denial and project our inner conflicts onto others, we resist the notion that a secret program beneath our conscious awareness holds such a dominant position and manifests such a malignant nature.

Freedom from this emotional tyranny comes only when we begin to understand the extent to which we maintain unconscious infantile interpretations and realize how these feelings and beliefs control our reactions and behaviors.

share ko lng nbsa ko..

[PrettyMermaid]

thanks paperdoll for postin'.....


here's my say on this one:

Miseries are miseries......it is part of human existence as we go through our life and as we grow and learn. It is a fact of life! Bein miserable is somethin' not worthy to put into our daily lives. We are prone into this feeling but we have to be aware and face our own miseries in the right manner so as to see and savour the beauty of life. Human existence i believe is not really simple because we go through a lot of things in life which challenges our capacity to deal with whatever concern we encounter each day we live. It depends on the person how to tackle and resolve whatever ordeals or problems they may have. Miseries is also rooted from the not so good pasts experiences which were not properly deal with and so it remains in their whole system and resulted them into becoming them more miserable. It's a behaviour that must be dealt on otherwise it will affect one and may destroy. Miseries must be squarely resolve so as to prevent it from gettin' worst and ruin one's disposition. Negative emotions are rooted from our worries, fears, anxieties, confusion and the abscence or lack of courage. To be able to prevent those unwanted emotions and negative behaviours we should remain focus to do what is right so as not to end up making wrong decisions. Now, if we do or make wrong decisions we should know how to deal with it in the practical way that it wouldn't jeopardise the problem more. We have to move on, learn from it and become better next time.

"Be optimistic!" Invite positive energies in your life and discard the unpleasant stuff and negative vibes . It won't help at all. Such a beautiful life as they say! Don't frown and fret!

cheers!

*pm*
 

[tonychel]

nice thread   

no OT pls 

[spidey]

sorry bro, pero parang OT ata lahat ng posts a 

dba dapat "WORD" lang?

 

peace tayo mga amigas 

[PrettyMermaid]

sorry bro, pero parang OT ata lahat ng posts a 

dba dapat "WORD" lang?

 

peace tayo mga amigas 

Yeah, it's WORD for the day but just EXPOUNDING lang po.....hmmm
wellllllllllllllllll........................is ok.

[hongkee]

"transparency"

[PrettyMermaid]

"transparency"

well....i concur hongkee! no prob. yes, be transparent.